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Become the Trusted Problem Solver of the Household

>> Saturday, July 17, 2010

This is a guest post written by Logan Lindabury, "the Happiness Coach".


So I'm a 20 year old male. What could I possibly know about wives and mothers? How could I possibly relate to them on a level that makes you, a wife/mother, want to read this? Answer: I have a Mother who has been here for me since…since before I was born!

So, maybe I know something, maybe I don't. I'll let you decide. But what I can do is provide some tips for you and help you find some happiness in your life. I can tell my own personal stories and help you see different solutions to your problems.

Because after all, Mom's know best and sharing that knowledge amongst other Moms and Wives will help you finally get your children to clean their own rooms!

So we'll start today with journaling/diary keeping. Since I was a little kid I have kept a journal on and off. You should encourage your children to do the same. Don't force them, because it will only be a horrible experience if you do.

And more importantly, let them call it what they want! Do not call it a diary if they call it a journal, it will only frustrate them. Believe me.

Plus, there is actually a difference between "diary" and "journal." Diary is something that you write in every single day, about the events of that day. Journal is something that you write in periodically about any event of your choice. At least that is my understanding of it.

So you're not a Mom? No big deal. Encourage your husband to do this. Encourage yourself to do it. But here's the BIG part: Do NOT read anyone else's journal/diary unless you have been given explicit permission; and even with permission proceed with caution.

Because once you break that trust, once you violate that privacy, the person writing the journal/diary will likely STOP writing or write secretly and always be anxious about you reading it in the future.

So, just do NOT go there.

My Mom knew I wrote a journal and as far as I know she never once tried to read them. Today, I keep most of them in a fireproof/waterproof safe for two reasons: (1) No one can be tempted and (2) If something happened to our house, my journals would be safe.

So you're asking: how does this help me be happy? Because by letting your children have their privacy you will soon find that they come and talk to you about things that really matter; things that get written about in the journal on a regular basis.

So in essence, writing in a journal deals with most of their problems but the most significant ones are brought to you. You may see this as the opposite of happiness right now but that will change. You'll soon be happy that your kids trust you with their biggest challenges and that they turn to you to help solve them.

I can tell by the look on my Mom's face that she enjoys helping out with such problems. Okay, maybe not all the time; but definitely a majority of the time. The same can be said about my Father, or most Fathers for that matter.

So, to recap: (1) Encourage journaling/diary keeping, (2) Do not violate privacy, and (3) Be prepared for happiness that will come as a result of being given an immense amount of trust.

This article was written by Logan Lindabury, the Happiness Coach from HappinessCanHelp.com. Do you want to enjoy your life? Do you want to find happiness no matter what happens? Then go to HappinessCanHelp.com and get started today.

4 comments:

lighttraveler,  said... July 20, 2010 at 9:49 PM  

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Thanks,
Bonny

Cascia,  said... July 21, 2010 at 10:58 AM  

Great tips! I think I need to work harder on my problem solving skills.

Thanks for stopping by the Healthy Moms!

Britney,  said... July 21, 2010 at 1:48 PM  

Hello,

I wanted to let you know that I am following you from Twitter Moms, "The Blog Following Network" group. I am hoping when you get a chance you can follow me back at http://www.britneysbeautyblog.com and http://www.britneysbeautymark.com. Also, I would love to place a link to your site on my blog if you want to do the same with my blog on yours. Please let me know by sending me an email regarding this and it has been nice meeting you via the web.

Thanks, Tracey

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